- It's not my fault, lady, don't look at me. Nadia asked me and I answered her.
-Please you two don't talk...
- Is it just us talking? Don't you see the others ahead, madam?
- Yes, they and you please stop because you are disturbing the class.
-Spyro, this is the third time you've been late. The next day you will be absent in the first hour...
- Anyway, it's not my fault... It's not my fault, madam, it was...
- There was traffic on the road. Someone jumped and everyone laughed, because they knew Spyros lives across the street from the school...
- The guard had... locked the door... and until he unlocked it...
-If you were on time, the door would be open.
- My mother was late to wake me up... what is my fault...
-John, at the time of the competition we said the books should be in the bag...
- I don't have a book, madam...
-And how is this under your desk, open?
-I did... repetition, during the break...
- But I said something, before we start...
- I didn't hear you, madam. What is my fault?
Reading the above story online, which is probably true, brought to mind very familiar images and rhymes from my school days. I thought about how many times we have all heard or used these words: “It's not my fault, it's not my fault. Don't blame me."
Most people have someone or something to blame for their current life circumstances and they attribute these responsibilities accordingly: to the mother, the father, the politicians, the way they were raised, the misfortune that strikes them, the crisis, the country they were born in, Mercury retrograde...
It is a common story that we look to others for the causes of what is happening in our lives today. Most people throw the blame there for the problems they face, for the desires they didn't live, for the unfulfilled dreams, their financial situation and countless others. The other person or others have assumed the role of 'evil' in life. If you ask them what would happen if the dad, the wife, the boss, the supervisor, the state, the Germans, the mother-in-law or anyone else were not so bad the answer would be that their life then would be wonderful! That there would be no problem and that everything would at least run more smoothly.
Of course there is no doubt that life can present many challenges and certainly many experiences can cause pain. In this case it is very tempting to attribute the cause of our unhappiness to all these others. All of us would like others to do what we think is right. To behave as they should. To give us what we want and need.
And this begs the question: "If there was a way to change others, would you want to know it?"
If you want to learn how contact me here: plirofories00@gmail.com
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